In a previous blog post, I had mentioned that I biked out to a ceremony at one of my student’s houses a month early. Now, a month later, I finally made it out to that ceremony on the correct day! I’d never been to this house before, or met the family, but as I pulled up on my bike, a woman rushed over to me and introduced herself as my student’s aunt. She led me over to a small tent where I sat with some folks and watched the monks chant. After the chanting, the monks ate lunch (Did you know that everyday monks can’t eat from about 12:00 noon until 6:00am the next morning?), then us lay people ate when they were finished. I feasted with a group of friendly grandfathers, as my students showed up. The four girls from this village are absolutely beautiful and hard working, biking about two hours per day and six days per week to study at the middle school.
They took me around their housing complex and introduced me to their families, who were very friendly and outgoing. We all jumped on our biked and rode about 200 meters down the road to one of the girl’s houses to meet the last family. We picked some small sour fruits and sat around chatting and eating them with spicy salt. These four girls are some of my best students and I’ve always adored them, but seeing them at their homes and with their families was a delight, they were even more goofy and relaxed!
One of the girls found a bat who was sleeping in a curled up banana tree leaf, she pulled it out and played with it for awhile. Her brother then poked a small hole in it’s wing and tied a string to it. The bat would fly around in circles on it’s leash and he chased after the small children with it. I felt bad for the bat, but it was a very interesting sight. I felt like I was going to cry saying goodbye to these girls for the day who had just showed me their world.
A woman in one of the further villages invited me out to an evening ceremony at her house. Three women from my village were also invited so we met at the road intersection and all biked out about 30 minutes together. We parked our bikes in a field, gave our offerings of money and rice, and were seated at a table for all-you-can-eat rice porridge. Since it was getting dark and we lived far away, we didn’t stay for long. I love riding those dusty roads with friends under the setting sun, almost like an adventure race of sorts!
A few weeks after the planting of our home gardens, I walked around the village to check in on them and see if there were any problems I could help with. They all looked pretty good, everyone of the gardens is growing well and the villagers are working hard to keep them beautiful!
I was especially excited when I arrived at Mrs. Mol’s house. When we initially asked her to be a part of the project, my hunch was that she didn’t seem very motivated and I thought she was just joining for the sake of joining and would only do the minimum. Boy oh boy was I wrong! I walked in or her mixing up a huge pile of leafy compost with her bare hands and her son helping. Her garden was beautifully manicured, weeded, fertilized, and had some of the best growth of all the gardens!
Finishing out my rounds on the home gardens, I met with my next door neighbor at their small farm. Usually, I always work with his wife who is one of my village health volunteers, but she was not present this day. We sat in the dirt of his garden and he completely opened up to me talking about America, Cambodia, time zones, gardens, how he thinks dark skin is more beautiful than white (white skin is usually considered more beautiful in this culture), and his experience during the Khmer Rouge period. He mentioned that in the Khmer Rouge times people just built small temporary wooden shelters, so when the Khmer Rouge came to burn their houses down, they could just grab the cows and run and not have to worry about any possessions left behind.
My cousin, K’neat, mentioned to me that she might drop out of school next year, when she would be in the 7th grade, because her family doesn’t have enough money for her to continue studying and needs her to work. I inquired how the younger of her two brothers is still able to study in the 8th grade. She said that the oldest brother, who works as a dirt digger, gives the younger brother money to continue private classes. These are the daily conversations that I think many Peace Corps Volunteers experience which make our hearts burst and make the work that we are doing difficult to express to others.
Ga’bow and some of the little cousins are too small to reach into the water cisterns when it is time for them to shower. So, a few times a day, I get the honor of scooping water out and pouring it out on them while they rinse off. I especially enjoyed one time when I was watering the vegetable garden and they wanted to shower. I filled up the water cans and poured it over Ga’bow and Gahn while they laughed and danced around!
During lunch, a kid came over, walked into my mom’s shop and simply screamed, “SOUP…ONE BOWL!” and sat down. This seems to be how things are ordered and bought, but I imagined him visiting a restaurant in the USA, walking in and screaming this to order and the reaction he would get!
Soken, the middle school principle, and I worked at the school garden for a few afternoons to teach the kids how to string up the trellis nets for the vine-type plants. The students cut bamboo from around their houses and brought it to school, then we supplied them with string and netting. Things started slow until we had a few examples up for the students to model off of, then they flew up and are looking great!
My sister has been practicing making some new foods and I get to be the guinea pig and test them out. She’s an awesome cook, so I luck out getting to eat all these special dishes she prepares such as roasted duck and lok-lak beef!
One of my older students invited me out to her cousin’s wedding in a different village. Not knowing anyone else who was attending, I waited the appropriate time to be fashionably late, then biked over alone. I was still too early, so I waited a bit for people to show up. One of my male neighbors showed up shortly afterward, took me by the arm and we entered together. It turns out he was already pretty drunk, and as the food/drink service for the wedding began he continued to drink a lot and pressure the other guests into drinking. Eventually he couldn’t even use his chopsticks and would miss his cup when he was pouring more beer and just pour it all over the table. He would put his arm around me and yell to all the other guests at the table that I was an American, he must have said the same thing some 30 times. It was pretty embarrassing because I felt that his actions were reflecting on me and I felt responsible to keep him under control for the sake of the other guests. Finally, we finished eating and I left before him. An 80 year old grandfather from my village was also in attendance at the wedding, so we rode home together and had pleasant conversation.
Some of the cousins and I wanted to go out to the rice fields and pick some wild fruits. The problem was that the small children wanted to go, but the parents wouldn’t let them, so they were crying. Having enough of the situation, I broke off into a sprint to the rice fields and figured that anyone fast enough to keep up was big enough to join the excursion. To my delight, two of my favorite dogs followed me at the heel and joined us through the thick vegetation searching for the fruits. For the puppy, it was her first time ever being away from the house and was so curious to explore, yet always kept in sight of us and checked in and responded to my whistle (I trained her to the Darcy whistle: one long, three short). On the way back to the house we jumped into a pond for a minute to cool off and my puppy got her first swim, she was a natural! Oh yeah, we didn’t get any fruits, they weren’t ripe yet!
Played volleyball with some of the teenagers and we had a pretty competitive game. I love the days when I have the energy to do something physical, quite frequently I am always drained from being “ON” 100% of the time at site.
Ngaa didn’t go to school one day because his pants were dirty and he hadn’t done laundry and didn’t have another pair of school pants. I didn’t let him watch a movie that night because I have to stand firm on the rule of ‘no school, no movie,.’ plus he could use a little discipline. While he was sitting nearby listening to the movie instead, he asked, “What if you only had one pair of pants and they were dirty, what would you do? Would you go to school in front of your friends?” I pretended to ignore him, but it was a reminder that while I live here for two years, I will never truly know what those daily struggles for basic needs is like.
Aunt Lewin harvested the corn from their garden. All the extended host family members got to feast on it for days as she cooked it and shared it with them. Plus, she was able to sell off all the surplus for about $25.00. It always tastes more delicious when you do it yourself!
A while back I gave the kids a kit to make paper airplanes which came with a fat stack of paper. One day we began making origami instead and they really took the the small paper balloons that I taught them. I made a paper crane and tied it to the roof of my mom’s little restaurant. She asked me to make even more to decorate for Khmer New Year!
As some of you may have seen in the news, The First Lady of the United States, Michelle Obama, came out to Cambodia to meet with our group of Peace Corps Volunteers to help kick off her “Let Girls Learn” initiative for keeping young women in school. The principle of the middle school I work with joined me as my partner for the event. On a Friday, we all met in Siem Reap and had a meeting for a couple of hours about where we would walk, sit, check in through security, how to act, etc. No details were ignored.
The following day we checked in through security and presented our passports. The shirt I was wearing had the logo of a local NGO on it, so I was told that I need to change shirts so that it would not be in pictures. Luckily, John Williams, a Peace Corps legend, was on hand and gave me one of his shirts to wear…a shirt that his daughter, a Returned Peace Corps Volunteer, had given him…plus he let me keep it, what an honor, thanks John! We had a few hours before The First Lady was to arrive, so our Country Director lead us through group discussions about gender equality in Cambodian schools and the barriers that young women face in education. During those discussions, a small ceiling tile fell near the door that The First Lady would be walking through a little while later. As things got closer to the arrival, we had a few speeches from our Country Director, the USAID director, and our Peace Corps Regional Director…all the while, the hotel staff was on a ladder next to them manually checking the ceiling tiles to make sure nothing would fall during the main event!
When the time came, one of our PCV’s did a wonderful job of introducing Carrie Hessler-Radelet, The Director of Peace Corps. Carrie then gave a moving speech about the work we are doing, then introduced The First Lady.
I’ve seen Michelle Obama in pictures and on TV, but the beauty she radiated as she walked up to that stage made my jaw hit the floor. Her speech can be seen here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6YV0ujJghg After her speech, we were instructed to stay at our seats, and that maybe she would shake a few hands before her exit. Instead, she called forward everyone in the room and hugged each and every one of us individually. During these hugs, I heard some of my favorite advice from her, “Don’t get tired.” I’ve kept that in mind ever since that day, it’s often easy to become jaded and in a rut and daily routines, we need to make the extra effort to remain passionate and put forth our very best every single day!
We all met outside for a group picture.
I was also able to grab a few pictures with my doppelganger, Ryan, a member of the White House staff which organized all the details prior to the arrival of The First Lady.
Then there was an all-you-can-eat hotel buffet…Yes please!!! The following day, we had a group session with The Director of Peace Corps, Carrie Hessler-Radelet. Some of the PCV’s gave a presentation about the work we are doing, we were able to ask questions, and she told us a few incredible stories about previous volunteers and the impacts they have made. It’s so comforting how down-to-earth the Peace Corps Staff is world wide, even up to the highest director, we were able to talk one-on-one just like normal people and give hugs goodbye. They were all Peace Corps Volunteers once, and that is an instant connection that I look forward to sharing for the rest of my life!
I following day, I had the distinct pleasure of having Carrie Hessler-Radelet out to my house for a site visit! I showed her around my house, we checked out one of my village gardens, then went down to the school to meet the principle and observe the school garden. It was very enjoyable to share my experience with such an inspiring woman, and reassuring that even the highest member of our program is still passionate about being out there on the ground and in the heat and supporting our Peace Corps on every level!